I think one of the big challenges people face is "fit" changes over time. We think of growing up from child to adult and that our "fit" solidifies once we reach adulthood. 18 years old? 25 years old? 30 years old? But do we ever stop growing/changing?
That adulthood was fixed/defined was at least my expectation or what I had been lead to believe, but it hasn't been my experience. My desires, goals, etc. still change. Or more accurately, my perception of what I want, desire, etc. keep changing. Some by getting what I thought I wanted then realizing it wasn't at all what I really wanted. Some by priorities changing based on marriage, kids, financials, etc. Only after hitting 40, do I feel like I'm finally learning who I really am and what I really want. Though I probably said that at 25, 30, 35 too.
To go back and do it again would be to go back and do what I want to do now, even if it isn't at all what I wanted to do then. I think the young me would be miserable. Many people would choose to do it differently based on the destination, where they are now. But is life about the journey or the destination?
Also, there's lots of decisions I would do differently in hindsight, in a vacuum. But most of them mean I wouldn't have met Grace. I wouldn't trade that.
Thanks Patrick for sharing, very thought provoking comments! Definitely agree that "fit" changes over time... And life really is about the journey. Sadly some people forfeit "fit" for perceived destination "rewards", only to find it rather empty. I guess life is always a process of learning, and having the courage to change!
Awesome, reminds me a lot of the speech I fall back to often: Steve Jobs speaking at Stanford commencement in 2005. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UF8uR6Z6KLc
I think one of the big challenges people face is "fit" changes over time. We think of growing up from child to adult and that our "fit" solidifies once we reach adulthood. 18 years old? 25 years old? 30 years old? But do we ever stop growing/changing?
That adulthood was fixed/defined was at least my expectation or what I had been lead to believe, but it hasn't been my experience. My desires, goals, etc. still change. Or more accurately, my perception of what I want, desire, etc. keep changing. Some by getting what I thought I wanted then realizing it wasn't at all what I really wanted. Some by priorities changing based on marriage, kids, financials, etc. Only after hitting 40, do I feel like I'm finally learning who I really am and what I really want. Though I probably said that at 25, 30, 35 too.
To go back and do it again would be to go back and do what I want to do now, even if it isn't at all what I wanted to do then. I think the young me would be miserable. Many people would choose to do it differently based on the destination, where they are now. But is life about the journey or the destination?
Also, there's lots of decisions I would do differently in hindsight, in a vacuum. But most of them mean I wouldn't have met Grace. I wouldn't trade that.
Thanks Patrick for sharing, very thought provoking comments! Definitely agree that "fit" changes over time... And life really is about the journey. Sadly some people forfeit "fit" for perceived destination "rewards", only to find it rather empty. I guess life is always a process of learning, and having the courage to change!
Thanks Charm 🙂 sooo if you could do it again what would you do?